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What to write to a pen pal
The blank page is the hardest part. You've found someone on the other side of the world, they're waiting to hear from you, and suddenly you have nothing to say. The good news: a first letter doesn't need to be clever. It only needs to sound like you.
Start where you are
Forget the introduction for a moment and look up. What's outside your window? Is it raining, is a neighbour's radio coming through the wall, is your tea going cold?
Opening with the moment you're writing in pulls your pen pal into the room with you. "It's nine in the evening here and the street has finally gone quiet" says more about you than a list of facts ever could.
Tell them why you wrote
Something made you pick this person. Maybe you both love old films, maybe they live in a city you've always wanted to see, maybe their profile made you laugh. Say so. People like knowing what caught your eye, and it gives your letter a direction from the very first line.
A small story beats a list
It's tempting to write "I'm 24, I like music and travelling." Try one small story instead. Not "I like cooking", but the evening you burned the rice for twelve guests and served it anyway. A story gives your pen pal something to answer, and that's how real conversations begin.
Ask one or two real questions
Questions keep letters going, but a questionnaire kills them. Pick one or two you genuinely want answered. What does an ordinary Sunday look like where you live? Is there a word in your language that has no translation? Which song would you send me right now?
Open questions like these invite stories instead of one-word replies.
Writing in a language you're learning?
Then say so in your first paragraph. Most pen pals are happy to help, and many will gently point out mistakes if you ask them to. Keep your sentences short, use the words you know, and keep a dictionary close. A letter gives you the time to think that a chat never does.
End with an open door
Finish with something that makes replying easy: a question, the promise of the rest of a story next time, or simply "I'd love to hear about your week." Then sign off the way you'd talk: "Take care", "Write soon", "Greetings from a rainy Lisbon".
What to keep to yourself
Your full name, home address, phone number and social media can wait until you really know someone, and some of it can wait forever. Letterbird never shows these to anyone, and members aged 13 to 17 only ever write to other teens. If a letter feels wrong, you can block and report the sender in one tap.
Your first letter is waiting
On Letterbird, letters take a few hours to arrive, so there's no rush and no "typing…" bubble watching you. Write it, read it once more, choose an envelope and a stamp, and let it travel.